Today's women often find it difficult to remain women, especially if they manage to advance in career ladder and achieve a leadership position.
Modern women, for the most part, have already realized that they are strong enough to independently overcome all life’s difficulties and achieve their goals, and they no longer need a strong man nearby for this. As a result, such women sacrifice a very important part of themselves in order to be successful. But in vain.
Emotionality, tenderness, sensitivity and kindness are typically feminine qualities, and they are an integral part of feminine nature. It is through femininity that you can attract the man of your dreams. After all, any representative of the stronger sex is ready to move mountains for the sake of the happiness and tranquility of a gentle and feminine girl.
A “strong woman” who does not give herself the right to be feminine risks being left alone with her ambitions.
And in any century, at any time, women who create a cozy and homely atmosphere will always be surrounded by real strong men. Whereas " Strong woman”, who does not give herself the right to be feminine, risks being left alone with her ambitions. Of course, feminine traits need to be cultivated in girls from early childhood, but nevertheless, at any age it is possible to develop such qualities, and quickly enough, if you try.
1. PREFER FEMININE STYLE
Modern women love to wear men's clothing. This is done for different purposes. Some people find such things comfortable, others feel more confident in a men's wardrobe. A woman who wears jeans, shirts and sneakers looks stylish, beautiful, but not feminine.
Over time, such women get used to men's style and lose their femininity. They cut their hair short and forget about jewelry. It's good to try new things and experiment with style, but it's important not to cross the line because your appearance has a significant impact on the way you think.
2. SPEAK IN A FEMALE VOICE
Whatever one may say, the voice is very important characteristic a woman who can either enhance her attractiveness or negate it. Modern men set high standards for yourself and for others, especially when it comes to relationships with the opposite sex. They find women with high, feminine voices especially attractive.
If for some reason your voice is not angelic, do not despair. First, record yourself to understand exactly what weaknesses you need to work on. If your voice is low, hoarse and rough, try various techniques to give it a feminine touch.
However, timbre is not the only vocal characteristic you should focus on. Work on intonation, expand lexicon and remove grammatical errors. Once you achieve these goals, you will be able to easily win the hearts of men with one or two phrases.
3. PAY ATTENTION TO YOUR THOUGHTS AND FEELINGS
It is difficult to change your life if there is no harmony in your inner world. Many women cannot develop femininity because they are oppressed by deeply hidden feelings and emotions. Psychologists say that hatred, resentment, envy, negative attitudes and obsessive thoughts lead to various somatic disorders and steal femininity. Unexpressed emotions increase muscle tension, spasms and negatively affect emotional condition.
As a result, it is difficult for a woman to maintain a beautiful feminine posture due to muscle tension. Graceful and smooth movements are replaced by impetuous ones. Recognize what needs to be addressed internal problems and achieve peace with yourself, otherwise you will not be able to radiate an atmosphere of femininity.
Only a woman can understand all the feelings and emotions of another woman without words. 4. COMMUNICATE WITH WOMEN MORE FREQUENTLY
Modern women communicate little with each other because they believe that female friendship does not exist. But this position limits the possibilities.
If you don't want to have girlfriends, just hang out with other women. Look around and you will see that the world is full of wise, feminine and kind women. Active communication with such individuals will strengthen your feminine energy and help you become more successful. Only a woman can understand all the feelings and emotions of another woman without words.
Perhaps there is no real female friendship, but this does not exclude communication between representatives of the fair sex. Your mother and grandmother can teach you a lot and pass on their invaluable experience. Don't be shy about asking their advice at any age. 
5. DON'T TAKE TOO MUCH ON YOURSELF
Women who think they can handle everything on their own are usually successful but unhappy. They do not understand that their independence and pride takes away their energy.
Sometimes it's okay to pretend to be a weak woman and ask men for help.
Sometimes it's okay to pretend to be a weak woman and ask men for help. Gallant men will even be happy to help a beautiful lady. In addition, you will be able to devote more time to yourself, your development and energy practices.
A real woman knows exactly her purpose and knows how to prioritize. Those who cannot imagine life without children should not try to combine family and career. It is better to choose one thing than to chase two birds with one stone and not catch either.
6. TRY TO BE A VERSATILE PERSONALITY
Attractive, interesting and feminine ladies are always open to change and believe in the limitlessness of their possibilities. Every woman is beautiful, unique and can shine like a diamond. If you want to attract real men and develop your femininity, you must, like a real actress, play a wife, mother, daughter or sister in different situations, and also be able to redirect attention from one thing to another.
This skill will give you the opportunity to forget about your problems and smile as if everything is fine with you. Men admire positive women who know how to control their emotions and remain feminine no matter what. Such women are simply doomed to happiness, because their qualities raise the self-esteem of their men.
7. KEEP YOUR HOUSE AND MIND CLEAN
Your home is not just a place where you live, but also a strong energy center. There is a strong energetic connection between you and your home. You will never achieve the desired level of femininity if your home is uncomfortable and dirty. Remember that it is the woman who is the keeper of the hearth. There is no need to spend 24 hours a day cleaning, but remember that neatness and comfort are women's responsibilities.
In addition, it is worth cleansing the body and spirit. How to do it? The easiest way is to take a contrast shower or bath with sea salt. This will refresh your energy and get rid of negative thoughts. Water has the ability to get rid of negative energy.
If you have a masculine demeanor, don't despair. Femininity is a set of actions, behavior, attitudes and attitudes characteristic of a real woman. This means that any representative of the fair sex can develop this quality.
Femininity is a quality that many representatives of the fair sex try to develop in themselves. It seems very strange, if their nature has already endowed them with the ability to skillfully manipulate the male sex and the ability to look great, then why do some of them strive to become more feminine, what does this give them?
5 reasons why you should develop your femininity
- You work in a male team. Very often, the people around us greatly influence the emotional state of others, as well as their behavior. If you constantly have to work in a male team, then gradually the desire to look good will not become a habit, but will fade into oblivion. After a month of working with men, many of them will stop paying attention to some of your new exploits.
- Work or other circumstances have forced you to become tougher and approach many issues with a fairly large degree of pragmatism.
- You are in a leadership position. In most cases, such women cannot do without a piece of femininity that needs to be worked out.
- Have you ever thought about the need to look attractive in front of men? Moreover, this question concerns not only appearance, but also behavior, gestures, facial expressions, and conversations.
- Do you want to become a true lady who is without special effort will be able to achieve what she wants thanks to the representatives of the stronger sex around her.
There are other reasons why you should show femininity, they may differ for each person. In any case, sooner or later, many young ladies realize that at a frantic pace modern life, due to certain conditions and behavior, they lack the softness in behavior, appearance, manners and gait, thanks to which men are ready not only to turn their heads, but to go to the ends of the earth.
Femininity is not only an opportunity to show your best qualities as a lady, but also a magnificent weapon that can be used without problems in the modern world.
So it is important to understand how to develop femininity and win hearts.
We approach solving the problem step by step
If you understand that you really need to develop femininity, then we advise you to divide all your actions into three separate blocks: 
- Appearance.
- Behavior, gestures and gait.
- Manner of conversation and communication.
By working through each of these points, you can achieve significant results without spending a little time. It is important to understand that only an integrated approach to this issue will help you achieve what you want. Even if you are dressed smartly, wearing a beautiful dress and stilettos, and you will speak in a deep voice and behave like a real man, you can forget about femininity.
Remember, people are greeted by their clothes.
In matters that concern femininity, appearance will play a big role. This will include clothes, makeup, manicure, accessories, hairstyle. Which of these points should you consider first and what will help you look more feminine?
Change from trousers, jeans, leggings to dresses and skirts. In the latter, in addition, you can use beautiful sweaters with ruffles that will perfectly match your appearance. It has been proven that a man pays much more attention to a woman who is wearing a skirt or dress. This type of clothing will help highlight the beauty of your legs, and it is not necessary that the length be short enough.
Shoes with heels or stilettos. It is important to choose an option that is convenient for you, because it is no secret that many men like women with stiletto heels. They make your gait softer and more beautiful. In addition, wearing heels will produce the effect of muscle tension, due to which your legs will look slimmer.
Combination of two or three colors in one image. This applies to both accessories and clothing, as well as makeup. You shouldn’t look too bright; there should be a golden mean in everything.
Try to give up sneakers and those shoes that are very similar to men's. If you are short, use higher stiletto heels. If, on the contrary, nature has endowed you with considerable height, then you can choose neat shoes with small heels or wedges.
And I recognize my sweetheart by her gait...
The behavior of every girl and woman can reveal how much feminine and masculine principles are combined in her. It happens that a girl looks really impressive, but she has very sharp movements, and in her gait and communication she resembles a man. To avoid such an imbalance, it is necessary to carefully work out all the skills.
A gait is considered feminine when a woman moves slowly, in small steps. This does not mean that you need to mince or take very small steps. If walking in stilettos or heels was alien to you, then this task will require you to spend more time training. You can practice at home. Simple enough, but effective exercise It counts if you try to walk around the room holding a book on your head. This will develop a smoother posture and gait, since the book will not have to fall.
Please note that any movements you make should be very soft and smooth. Forget about harshness and jerkiness. You should show softness and complaisance with your entire appearance. This should concern the way you walk, turn your head, change your position, sit in a chair or car.
Use actions that can highlight your feminine side. This includes adjusting a hanging curl, beautifully tossing your hair, and playing with a shoe. If you drink coffee in a cafe or eat dessert, do it slowly, savoring every bite. This will also show that you can experience every moment of your life, do it slowly, enjoying this process.
What to do about behavior?
Most often, this is the most difficult point to master in creating femininity. It's quite simple to explain. Many women in the real world are goal-oriented leaders who are used to getting what they want. But femininity is incompatible with such a concept. Therefore, even if a person’s soul cannot be changed, external behavior can be corrected. What should you do for this?
If you are communicating with a man, do not try to seem smarter than your interlocutor. It just so happens that men consider women much stupider than themselves. Why bust this myth if we really know it's not true? Show that your interlocutor is a true professional in a particular topic. Why undermine his confidence in this?
Voice. Femininity also largely depends on this. No matter how pleasant a woman is, if she speaks in a deep voice, then it looks really terrible. The voice should “flow” and literally captivate and enchant the people around you, so you need to work on this point. Record yourself on tape and listen to exactly how you speak, what is the speed of your conversation, how soft and pleasant the timbre of your voice is. Try to change it and see what happens now.
The main obstacles on the path to femininity
You should definitely become familiar with the pitfalls that may be on your way. There are not so many of them, but imperceptibly they can shake your desire to comprehend such a science and learn all the wisdom in this matter. These include:
The pursuit of money, a career, achieving one’s goals, position in society. Unfortunately, this is very rarely combined with such a quality as femininity. In most cases, a girl or woman becomes more rude, loses the habit of soft behavioral traits, and learns to lead. Therefore, it practically does not combine with femininity.
Constant whims. This can be discussed in contrast to career women. Of course, it is very convenient to relieve yourself of responsibility by shifting it to men. On the other hand, this will not always be a manifestation of true femininity. This quality implies a certain wisdom and knowledge of life principles. Therefore, it is best to show that you are a mature and self-sufficient person, but at the same time you are very vulnerable, and you cannot do without help.
Trying to prove that you are strong and independent. You can know this within yourself, but you cannot show it to anyone.
The fact is that men will always try to protect weak women who are nowhere without help and support.
If you show that you can walk into a burning hut without any problems, that you can stop a galloping horse, any man will ask the question: “Why does she need me?”
For many, the lack of femininity can be called a quality that is inherited. Remember if there are female relatives around you who show their feminism and independence from the male gender. If there is, then you need to act completely opposite.
Combine these tips, avoid the most glaring pitfalls, and in the end you will be able to create an image that will appeal not only to others, but also to a large number of representatives of the stronger sex.
Let's say you make up your mind. You want to change. Want to delve deeper into a woman's journey. Become more feminine. And where to start? What medications and what is the dosage schedule?
I love ordered guidelines for action (the long “male” past takes its toll :)). In fact, it is really important to see step by step plan, understand where to strive, what and how. Understand what's stopping you and what's ahead.
If we are talking about steps towards the goal, then:
1. The first step is to give up pants. Because it changes a lot. Your attitude towards yourself, your image, the flow of energy, the attitude of other people. It often seems like nonsense, but it works. And it’s been working for me for almost 3 years (can you imagine? Almost 3 years without pants!). And the girls who were afraid at first, and then threw everything away and switched to dresses. And how many letters come from men who are delighted with such changes! Even those whose wives were otherwise perfect but wore jeans go crazy with happiness when their wife switches to dresses and skirts. So this is the first step. Minimize wearing trousers. At least wear beautiful floor-length sundresses at home...
2. Moving further along the course “Look like a woman.” And here it is worth thinking about the little things female image- accessories, jewelry, scarves (and how beautiful a lady looks with a scarf on her head instead of a hat in winter!). Recently, my husband became interested in Instagram - this is a network where people post their photos. So recently we saw a photo of Tina Kandelaki, famous woman, who came to Grozny. And they invited her on one condition. She should have worn a headscarf. You should have seen the number of “likes” under these photos, how many nice words they said to her! And how stylish and mysterious she looked in a scarf! Not only has it not lost its beauty, but it has also acquired a special charm. Therefore, think about what is not enough in your life - facial care, proper makeup, accessories, shoes?
3. When we already look like a woman, it’s time to start acting like a woman. Skirts will partly help us slow down, Because we won’t be able to run like that anymore. But it’s also important to consciously add fluidity to our lives. Slow down. Reduce speed. Start eating, walking, living more slowly. Stop rushing and being late. It’s difficult, especially in big cities. But probably. If you understand that it is impossible to do everything. And what is important is to do the most important thing first. Everything unnecessary will fall away on its own. There is a time for everything - in nature and in life. If we run very fast, it will not bring us closer to the goal faster. Sometimes women grab knowledge about femininity wholesale - they listen to ten lectures a day, but nothing changes. Because speed does not solve problems. You need smoothness, immersion. Like a woman. How fast do you speak? Are you often in a hurry? Do you eat while running? Do you drink coffee on the way to work? Do you run after buses? Just stop doing it. You will see - the world will not fall apart. And by the way, if food in the house is prepared on the run, then relationships develop the same way - quickly and poorly.
4. And then it’s important - correct communication. Find yourself like-minded girls. This can be done on our forum, for example. Communication with women is an exchange of feminine energy. This is always important and valuable. And don’t talk about what a bastard your husband is. And about eternity, knowledge, love. About how to become better. Sometimes cry. Sometimes to cheer someone up. What it can give you female friendship- cannot be replaced by anything.
5. Find yourself half an hour a day. Every day, spend half an hour doing what you like, what makes you happy. Baths, masks, self-care, books, drawings, dancing, songs, handicrafts - there are many such activities. As many as 85! And it is important to do this every day, increasing your resources.
These are the first five steps to the side female happiness. The first five. Only the first ones - but very important ones.
What can hinder us on this path?
1. Incorrect communication. If all your friends are angry feminists, it will be difficult for you. If you share, you'll get hit on the head. If you don’t share it, where else should you take it? The worst thing for a woman who grows the flower of femininity within herself is to invite pests into the garden. The worst pests are unfortunate women. Not out of malice. They are just unhappy - which means they can only share this - anger, bile and so on. We give the world only what we have. This does not mean that everyone should be abandoned and replaced. Just chat with them on neutral topics. And for close communication, look for like-minded people!
2. Generic scenarios. How much I talk about this - that until we see our ancestral ties, it is difficult to change. And when we see that the women in the family became strong after the grandmother lost her husband in the war, we can already forgive, let go and begin Our Life.
3. Excessive desire for achievement. When we try to do everything ourselves. When we chase money, career and connections. This is practically incompatible with feminine qualities. Alas and ah. A woman in this life can get everything through her husband. If she is feminine, she will learn to love and serve. Like a woman. No manipulation.
4. Misinterpretation. For example - “A man is an unfinished woman” - I often hear this from those who have begun to develop femininity. Since we make them, then without us they are nothing without a stick! We are queens and men are servants! The most untrue of all possible interpretations. This kills relationships, which means femininity is not real. A real woman deepens and strengthens relationships. Because he sees that we are different. No better, no worse. She does not manipulate, but learns to love herself.
5. Irresponsibility. Would you say that responsibility is a masculine quality? Yes, when we talk about being responsible for others. But each of us is responsible for ourselves. For your actions, thoughts, reactions, relationships. And often we slip into “I don’t want to decide anything. I’m a girl and I want a dress!” This is all nice and somewhat true. But remembering that true femininity is maturity and wisdom is important. We are responsible for what we do to ourselves and our loved ones. For doing your duty. For what we give to other people, how we treat them.
Here are the five obstacles. The main ones. Not all. This is what we most often run into. And we break...
To prevent this from happening, forewarned is forearmed. You now have a small map of your first steps. What will you do with it? You decide.
Olga ValyaevaEach of us wants not only to be a woman - only because we have the corresponding signs of gender - but also to be a real representative of the beautiful half of the human race, to whom the eyes of all the men around us would be drawn. I want it, I want it, but here’s how to develop femininity, which is a necessary condition female attractiveness, we do not always know.
Femininity has a lot different definitions. Each woman can have her own way of being attractive and charming, and each of these ways has the same power of influence on others. You don't have to be a doll with curls, dressed in all pink, to appear feminine. You can be a tomboy in life, or a woman who has forgotten about herself, giving all her attention and care to other people, and at the same time not lose her attractiveness.
However, in a society where the media promotes a particular type of femininity, many of us have to make some effort to achieve this ideal. So what is it worth striving for?
Femininity and appearance
What to hide - of course, a woman’s appearance is the first criterion that others evaluate. Here's what you can do to learn how to express your femininity through appearance:
- Spend time with your friends as often as possible
When communicating with different women, you can notice different “versions” of female attractiveness. Observation of various models femininity will help you find new facets for your own image, and you will become much more comfortable expressing and emphasizing your belonging to the fair half of humanity.
- Spend enough time learning about yourself
Yes, yes, don't be surprised! Each of us has special traits and qualities that make us uniquely attractive; but in the bustle of everyday life, we drive our Beautiful Stranger into the farthest and most hidden corner of the soul. Find time to do what you really enjoy doing, hone a talent or hobby that has previously been unused due to lack of time. Learning to pamper and love yourself will help you feel more comfortable in your own skin. And in the end, it will be much easier for you to express your femininity.
- Start working on your appearance by going to the hairdresser
Dye your hair or get a trendy haircut. This change in appearance will change your self-perception and break old patterns of behavior. Seeing the reflection of your updated appearance in the mirror, you will feel a surge of self-attractiveness, and this will help you become more feminine.
- Experiment with makeup
Just don’t overdo it with the brightness of the colors - as close as possible to natural look makeup is the most delicate and feminine. To make some changes, try different shades and the level of gloss of the lipstick. It would be very good to use the services of a professional makeup artist at least once - so you could see how you can highlight best features your appearance. And one more piece of advice: try to purchase only high-quality cosmetics that apply well and do not harm your skin.
- Find time for quality and professional self-care
Keep your eyebrows neat and don't let them grow overgrown. Remove hair on your face and legs if you have any. Don't let yourself walk around with stale or unkempt hair. Always get your manicure done on time and don't neglect your pedicure.
- If you want to look more feminine, you can't help but reconsider your wardrobe.
Replace sneakers that are so comfortable and dear to your heart with fashionable elegant shoes. And replace baggy T-shirts, which are more suitable for men, with light or pastel-colored blouses. Wear clothes that flatter and flatter your figure. If you emphasize your purely feminine curves and roundness, and not hide them under inexpressive unisex clothing, then you will give your femininity the opportunity to develop very actively.
- Be sure to add a detail to your look such as accessories - earrings, bracelets, necklaces, handbags, keychains...
Even when you're just wearing jeans and a T-shirt! Just, of course, observe moderation and maintain the chosen style.
- Be sure to take care of your body's health by eating well and exercising regularly.
Having a body that you can feel comfortable with will help you stop hiding your femininity.
- Watch your posture
Keep your back straight, do not let your chin rest on your chest, and make sure that your gait is graceful and light. I would like to talk about gait in a little more detail. You, of course, remember Verochka the secretary from the film " Love affair at work" She very accurately described the importance of a graceful gait for female attractiveness. Owning your body is very important great importance; and even if you put on a very beautiful dress and did your hair and makeup simply to the highest standard, this will not help you much if you walk like Lyudmila Prokofyevna: “all shriveled up like an old torn shoe, and itching to go to work!!!”
A woman should move completely differently. While paying close attention to how to develop your femininity, you must learn how to move correctly. After a little training, you will be able to develop the “correct” gait, and it will very quickly become the only acceptable one for you.
Femininity and demeanor
To develop your femininity, you must understand that it must come from within you. We can dress and behave as our feminine nature dictates to us, but this is still not enough. Dress a man in exactly the same way, and it will be clear from a kilometer away that he is a man. Why? Because it is impossible for a guy to fake a purely feminine demeanor. We must recognize that, both psychologically and culturally, women tend to have unique, different characteristics. male characteristics. Understanding this difference will help you develop your feminine nature.
Try to emphasize those physical and emotional qualities that distinguish you from a man. This does not necessarily mean that you should dress provocatively or, conversely, be constantly embarrassed and shy. Show your sensitivity, caring, and ability to empathize. Typically, femininity is associated with kindness, compassion and a desire to help others.
Pay attention to your mannerisms, speech and ways of interacting with people. Try to be more receptive and passive rather than active and aggressive. This does not mean that you cannot speak your mind in a controversial situation; just choose to speak as gently and tactfully as possible about any issue. And smile as often as possible. Watch the correctness of your speech and refrain from using vulgar words or profanity - a real Woman will never allow herself to do this!
Be natural in your behavior. There is nothing more beautiful and feminine than a girl who feels confident and calm. Do things that make you feel beautiful and happy. Listen to good, happy music that lifts your spirits. Read or daydream in the park or in your garden, surrounded by beautiful flowers. Have a get-together with your friends in a cafe or a good pastry shop. Give free rein to your positive feelings and emotions. Agree, it is women who are characterized by an easy and joyful perception of the surrounding reality - so learn to enjoy every trifle!
Do not forget to be weak and in need of care: men really like to act as protectors. Let the man open the door for you or pull up a chair. Let him offer you his help, and you accept it. If you are used to doing many things yourself, then call your friend or husband next time when you need to do something that is not entirely feminine - for example, moving a sofa or hanging a frame with a photo on the wall.
It’s not for nothing that they say that a woman’s strength is in her weakness. It helps you be feminine much better than manipulative actions using your sexuality. By allowing a man to help and giving him the opportunity to make you happy, you are sending him the message that you are worthy of love, admiration and protection simply because you are real woman, capable of appreciating all the advantages of her man. This is the most important sign of femininity!
Qualities that men find especially feminine
Most women mistakenly believe that the appearance of beautiful ladies is the most important thing for men. But a man mainly evaluates a woman by her personal qualities when it comes to serious relationship. What do guys like? First of all, affection and affection. Of course, men are very focused on the physical pleasure of intimacy, but this does not mean that they do not seek and do not want love. A woman who pays too much attention to sexual intercourse, but does not show affection, will be considered nothing more than a sexual partner by him.
Moreover, affection and love should be shown not only in the bedroom. Touch the man's hand affectionately when you sit across the table from each other. Give him a warm hug. Straighten the hair hanging over his eyes or remove an eyelash that has fallen on his cheek. Men really like this kind of unobtrusive attention and manifestation of warmth and love!
Men also really like cheerful girls with a good sense of humor. If you don't take yourself or life too seriously and know how to laugh at troubles, then guys will always be drawn to you. And men also really like playful women who like to fool around, regardless of their age. The youth of the soul is very attractive feature character and goes hand in hand with a sense of humor and the ability to have fun.
It would be possible to talk about other qualities that it would be wise to cultivate in yourself in order to become more attractive. There is no limit to perfection! But what you have just read about is quite enough to understand how to develop femininity in yourself. We showed you the main guidelines on the path to improvement; and it now depends only on you how charming, attractive and feminine you can become!
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