What's the difference between just a guy and a real man? Great physique, looks or wallet size? Or maybe the number of girls he drives crazy? In reality, all these factors mean absolutely nothing - only the attitude towards you and, of course, the manner of behavior matter. A real man knows how to make his woman happy, and he is never afraid of the following actions:
1. Start a new relationship
It often happens that a person lives alone for a long time. Such a long-term break in a relationship changes both your lifestyle and behavior. However, this is not at all a reason to behave insecurely when a man meets his woman. If a man realizes what she means to him, he will not hesitate or be afraid of a new relationship.
2. Show your tears
Women have a special privilege - the ability to cry. Why are tears supposedly forbidden for men? Emotions and their expression are so natural, so a real man is not afraid of it. Almost everyone faces serious problems, and therefore it is stupid to think that only women are allowed to shed tears, since men also suffer from negative emotions and they may well cry, and not only at funerals. Suppressing and hiding emotions, by the way, is very harmful to mental health.
3. Say publicly that he loves you
Of course, there are also discreet guys who do not want to advertise their private life, but in any case, a real man will never be afraid to publicly declare his feelings for you. If he is hiding you from his family and friends, then this is unlikely to indicate his serious intentions. A real man can always confirm to everyone that you are a couple, and a happy couple.
4. Doing things that are supposedly unusual for men to do.
Currently, issues and aspects of the relationship between gender and social roles are no longer as acute as before. Men are not always interested only in “male” entertainment and activities and do not particularly protest when women turn to them for help in some typically “female” matters. Modern guys, for example, may love to dance and wear bright, rich colors, and a real man always does what he wants and doesn’t really worry about what people might think of him.
5. Be a “housewife”
Washing dishes, cooking, cleaning the house and caring for children should not scare a real man. Let's say you are making a career and earning money, and he takes on some of the responsibilities - and that's normal. Sometimes we may well change our social roles with a partner if the circumstances of your comfortable living require it.
6. Listen to your woman’s opinion
A man must, firstly, be self-confident and, secondly, be able to make important decisions on his own, while not forgetting to take into account the opinion of his beloved woman. A real man is a person who understands and accepts the point of view of his other half. He does not decide anything without you, considering your union an equal partnership, and is not afraid to admit that your words mean a lot to him.
7. Be romantic
Guys, as a rule, believe that romance does not suit a real man. Even if your boyfriend does some very romantic things for you, he may well fear judgment from his friends for such supposedly “soft behavior.” A real man is always happy to do something pleasant for his other half, without paying the slightest attention to the opinions of others.
8. Follow your dreams
The ability to get into trouble does not make a man truly brave. Bravery and masculinity means the willingness to relentlessly and persistently pursue your dreams and aspirations, not being ashamed of them, but persistently achieving what you want, despite difficulties and circumstances.
Some women, when entering into a relationship with a man, literally sacrifice themselves, forget about their personal interests, hobbies, all their actions are aimed only at pleasing their loved one. But such sacrifice is not beneficial - most often, men easily abandon women who lay their whole lives at their feet.
Don't want to become a victim or be abandoned? Then try to never do the 5 things listed below for your lover.
1) Become a vest for tears
If you come across a man who likes to complain about unfair treatment to him from others and in general for the rest of his life, then you should not become for him a vest into which you can cry all the time. A beloved woman should not be a person on whom a man will pour out all his negativity day after day.
A man who uses his beloved as a pillow for his tears is likely not interested in her as a woman. Most likely, he just needs a person who is willing to listen to his constant moaning.
Of course, any man needs support from his beloved, but remember, everything should be in moderation. If you notice that everyone is constantly merging on you negative emotions, then try to answer your lover in the same way. Start complaining to him about life, health problems, talk about the smallest troubles - conduct a kind of experiment for several days.
Most often, bores and pessimists like to complain and feel pitied, but hearing this from their significant other is not part of their plans. Therefore, either such a person will leave your life on his own, or will stop behaving this way in your presence.
2) Give up your personal life
Many women give up their hobbies for the sake of the man they love. In most cases, a loved one is unlikely to appreciate such a sacrifice. After all, every man would like to see a versatile young lady next to him, and when a woman gives up everything she loved before, she loses herself and ceases to be a person. Transforming from an enthusiastic and cheerful girl into a housewife, a woman gradually ceases to be interesting to her man. Time passes and the woman has to pay for her mistakes, because her partner does not stop, he continues to develop and move forward, achieving success in his career.
This is why it is so important for a woman not to give up her favorite hobbies, not to give up her career, sports, or meeting with friends. It is important for beautiful representatives of the fairer sex to have some kind of emotional recharge in their lives. Of course, with the advent of a soulmate, life will change and make its own adjustments, but it is important for a woman to find golden mean, find time for your loved one, but at the same time do not forget about the development of your personality.
3) Give expensive gifts
Many women are guilty of giving their men very expensive gifts. This is permissible to do only when the lovers are in a long-term relationship and if the woman can easily afford it. Take out loans, borrow from loved ones, spend your last money to give to a man good gift- the height of stupidity.
Firstly, an expensive gift from a woman obliges a man to give an equally expensive gift in return. Secondly, for a man who earns good money, it will not be difficult to please the woman he loves with an expensive item. Thirdly, if there is a gigolo next to you, then he can impudently hint at an expensive thing that he would like to receive as a gift in the near future and this should not serve as a reason for a girl to take action, rather, on the contrary, this is an excellent reason to think about do you need such a man?
The only exception to this point is when you are with your loved one for a long time. strong relationships and you know that he secretly dreams of something. When presenting such an expensive dream gift, you should not be modest; you can gently hint that you had to work hard to present it to your loved one.
4) Become a savior
There are also women who take upon themselves the solution to all the problems of their lover. By placing the chosen one on their neck, women change roles with him.
Remember, men are called representatives of the stronger sex for a reason; they are the ones who must solve the maximum number of problems and concerns in this life, both their own and those of their beloved.
The substitution of roles suits only gigolos and “infants”, who with great pleasure sit on a woman’s neck and wait for them to solve their pressing problems.
5) Change your appearance
There are some males who give their loved ones an ultimatum and literally demand that the woman enlarge her breasts, dye her hair a different color, or have plastic surgery on her face. It’s one thing when a partner in a delicate manner invites his beloved to go to the fitness center together and lose a few extra pounds. It’s a completely different matter when a partner shows disdain in every possible way and tells his wife in a harsh manner that she has become too fat or ugly.
Even if a woman changes her entire appearance for the sake of her beloved, his attitude towards his beloved is unlikely to change. Only one decision can be correct here, either your partner accepts you completely and completely, with all the pros and cons, or you are not on the same path together.
A man who is constantly dissatisfied with something about his woman’s appearance cannot be kept close by anything.
Ladies have the right to change their hair color, outfits, appearance, but do it according to at will. A partner should not manipulate a woman and deprive her of her own opinion.
In a relationship with a man, everything should be mutual and agreed upon; it is important for a woman to feel loved, and not to sacrifice herself to her lover. Only mutual respect and the ability to take into account each other’s interests will allow a couple to become truly happy.
Ecology of life. Psychology: We spend most of our lives searching for our ideal woman, and when we find it, we begin to hesitate. We fail to take this necessary step before we can truly call her ours.
We spend most of our lives searching for our ideal woman, and when we find it, we begin to hesitate. We fail to take this necessary step before we can truly call her ours.
You may think that once you make a commitment, it will be easier to make the next one, but this is usually not the case.
Whether to call your girlfriend your girlfriend, tell her you love her, move in with her, or call her your wife are all inevitable decisions you'll have to make.
Indecision is your enemy. Of course, you need to think things through carefully before making such decisions, but you should never doubt without a valid reason; real men don't do this.
Real men make difficult decisions because they understand that those decisions must be made.
A real man has no doubts when he meets his woman. Because:
1. He realizes that he is very lucky
A real man is a fairly experienced man. He has enough failed relationships behind him and enough meetings with women who are not his to understand that he has met exactly the one he was looking for.
He won't hesitate because he knows he just won the lottery, and what man would wait to "cash in" his winnings?
Why should he wait to tell her how much she means to him? He doesn't see any point in this.
Luck does not last forever, he feels the need to "lock in" success before some other young man comes in his way.
About 7 billion people live on earth, and not everyone can find among them someone with whom you would like to share your life.
Just as lightning does not strike in the same place twice, so a man does not want to get involved in gambling and die again.
2. He is mature enough to face commitment.
I'm not talking about the fact that he is not afraid of commitment - no, most people are afraid of this, the point is that no matter what, he is ready to take this step. He is ready to find compromise solutions because he is sure that his woman is worthy of it.
Perhaps he is afraid of obligations, but he will not run away from them; he faces his fears - which is what a man should do. In addition, he may be more than willing to commit himself, as long as he doesn't have these scary thoughts.
Perhaps there is nothing he wants more than to settle down and love his woman with all his heart. He may be ready to devote himself and his life entirely to her. Regardless of whether he is afraid of commitment, if he is willing to devote himself to his woman, then he is a real man.
3. He wants her to understand how beautiful she is and how much she means to him.
Most men, for some reason, believe that women understand how much they mean to us. Unfortunately, everything is exactly the opposite.
If your woman is not a diviner, you need to use your words and your actions. You should be there, tell her about your love and show her how important she is to you.
A real man understands this, and moreover, understands how important it is for his partner to know that she is loved.
Your indecisiveness tells her that you are insecure. She says that even though you promise to always be there and love her, one day you may leave her.
You may think that your indecisiveness is invisible, but in fact it often causes incredible harm.
4. He's afraid of losing her
Right. A real man is afraid of losing the woman he loves and is not at all afraid to admit it. When you meet your ideal woman, you should be afraid of losing her, as this could be your tragedy.
She becomes your life, and if you were to lose her, you would lose yourself - or rather, you would lose the person she helped you become. It is an integral part of you.
A real man is afraid for the woman he loves and accepts and admits it. He allows this fear to guide him and help him realize how important this woman is to him.
Real men are afraid - more afraid than others. This is not a sign of weakness, but rather a sign of self-awareness.
5. He is ready to throw the whole world at her feet because he believes that she deserves it.
He wants to be the first and only one who will show her new places, let her try new dishes, long-aging wines and give her adventures. He wants to be the first to give her many new experiences, because he wants to become as much a part of her as she became of him.
He wants her to look back one day and remember all these amazing adventures and for a smile to appear on her face. He wants her to smile, to be happy, to be satisfied with herself, her life, her life experience and decisions made.
Deciding who you're going to spend the rest of your life with is undoubtedly the most important decision every person makes.
A real man refuses to be the reason a woman regrets spending her allotted days on this planet. On the contrary, he wants to be a cause of joy.
6. He doesn't have the slightest reason to doubt
Not a single good reason, at least. Of course, we can always come up with excuses or even incredible scenarios, and sometimes even real nonsense, just so as not to break anyone’s heart. Real men don't do this, but scumbags do.
A real man has no reason to doubt or wait long to express his feelings. She is his ideal woman. If he wants to be hers ideal man, he will make this decision - and this will be the first step.
More often than not, people choose to be blind, leave and break up. Most relationships are doomed to fail because they are between two people who are unable to work together.
But when you find the right person, there is no good reason to resist. We can come up with a bunch of excuses, but they're just excuses. A real man is honest with himself. When he knows he has found the one, he makes her the one. published
©Paul Hudson
Hello, dear readers of my blog! Today I would like to talk about what a real man should never do. It is so easy to get confused in concepts, in many principles and morals. Which of all this is simply imposed by society, and which is really necessary for a happy life.
Who is who
The first thing worth talking about is who a real man is. Agree that each person has his own special opinion on this matter. Yes, perhaps the definition will have similar features, but since there are differences, it is necessary to discuss them.
Ask yourself: who is a real man? And try to answer it. I am sure that most ladies imagined some kind of James Bond, who always looks spick and span, is gallant and courteous, all your desires and dreams and always strives to make them come true. This is in general.
A friend of mine once said: I’m so tired of all these glamorous boys, I wish I could meet a real man. I asked what she meant, to which I received a very clear answer: you see, a real man is a factory worker who will satisfy me first of all, and not himself.
Her answer made me think that modern young people really pay more attention to themselves, their appearance and their desires. Having asked the young ladies I knew about a real man, I received a certain collective image, which ultimately boils down to one thing: simple rule- throw away all masks.
I immediately remember an excerpt from the film “Moscow Doesn’t Believe in Tears,” when Georgy saves Alexandra and her boyfriend from the bad guys, she thanks Gosha and says that he acted like a real man. To which Georgy replies: I acted like a NORMAL man, you wouldn’t thank a woman for the fact that she knows how to do laundry or cook dinner.
Thus, ladies and gentlemen, let's immediately determine that a real man is a normal person, and not some kind of supernatural and unreal specimen.
Rules of the game
What actions in life are unusual for real, normal men? . A person who lives according to conscience and honor will never deceive others, his family and friends, colleagues and friends, and, most importantly, himself. This does not mean crystal honesty in everything. You can hold back, paraphrase, or ask not to talk about an exciting topic.
A decent man will never shift responsibility to others. He will not say that someone else is to blame for his mistakes. Such a person is not afraid of consequences.
A normal man does not fawn, does not bend, and does not fawn. All these qualities are characteristic of cowardly and cowardly people. If young man If you need help, he won’t look for pitfalls, he’ll just ask.
Knight of the 21st century
Remembering everything said above, one can easily conclude that a decent guy will not lie to his wife. And especially. If the relationship does not go well, he does not leave the family, he goes to the left and does not seek solace in the arms of others. He will try to improve the situation until the last moment. And in the end, if harmony in the relationship cannot be achieved, then he will get up and leave.
What he will definitely never do normal man, is to beat your beloved woman. Raising a hand against a girl or child is completely unacceptable for such a person. Punishment with the fist is possible in a situation with another man, and then only if it is impossible to do otherwise.
In no way included in the quality good man. A light game of jealousy is possible, but not a thorough study of records in in social networks, nightly viewing of messages on the phone, constant interrogations or scandalous scenes in society.
He will not discuss his woman's problems with others. He will never tell his friends how his beloved messed up or did something stupid. Yes, funny stories are possible on the general topic of female logic and other things that men love to talk about. But he won’t wash his dirty laundry in public.
Magic transformation
To be honest, I can’t say at what point the concept of a “real man” became something special. In my opinion, everyone should be like that. Just like women.
There is a logical understanding of life. What is good and what is bad. I won’t argue, there are so many people, so many opinions. But general principles still exist. Honesty, decency, independence, etc.
It's not hard to be like that. Yes, there are plenty of temptations to do wrong. Somewhere you can circumvent the rules, lie, act dishonestly, throw off responsibility and get away with it.
The main principle here is one- everyone decides for himself what he should be. As they say: there is no point in blaming the mirror if your face is crooked. Remember that at any time you can. Become a different person.
Text by Alexander Malenkov
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DOESN'T HURT women and children sexually, mentally or physically.
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Doesn't do synchronized swimming
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